I am still on a high from the District Queens Sip n Shop at Eloquii last week. During the event, we each gave our thanks to the crowd. If you’ve ever been around me when I have to speak, there are usually tears involved. When I speak from the heart, I always get a little emotional. Although I was able to hold back the tears Thursday, my voice did start to crack as I thanked the other women who make up the District Queens.
My goal for 2017 was to push myself outside of my comfort zone and try new things. I’ve never been super confident about my body and working with these women has really given me a brand-new confidence. I know that feeling confident about your physical appearance is something that many people, not just myself, struggle with. It normally starts during the teenage years and can be very difficult to overcome.
While adults tend to get more confidence as they grow older, this doesn’t always apply to how they feel about the way they look. Here are some things you can do to improve that:
1. Go to the gym
Not only will you be able to tone up, but you’ll feel better about yourself knowing that you’re working hard to achieve something and actually use your body. Exercise releases endorphins too which will naturally make you feel happier. I’ve stated many times here on the blog that I have no love for the gym, but I always feel great after a workout and instantly go to a mirror to check for my non-existent abs.
2. Make a list of things you like
You probably already have a mental list of the things you don’t like about your appearance, but what about the things you do like? There’s always at least one thing that people like about themselves, so spend half an hour looking in the mirror and making your list. Visual aids are great for recalling things at a later time. When you’re feeling down about something that you don’t like, grab this list and appreciate all the positives about your appearance.
3. Change the things you can
Rather than dwelling on the things you don’t like about yourself, recognize the ones you have some control over and start changing them little by little. If you bite your fingernails and don’t like the look of your hands, stop biting them. Take care of your hands and treat yourself to monthly manicures to improve their look. If you don’t like your hair, try a new style or color. I am famous changing up my hair length or color whenever I am in a funk and need a change.
And although most people wouldn’t give this advice, I’m going to be real. If you feel like getting plastic surgery to improve your appearance would really help, GET IT! Just beware, plastic surgery is addictive. How do I know? I’ve had some. If you want the story, leave a comment below and maybe I’ll blog about it in the future.
4. Surround yourself with positive people
Don’t surround yourself with people who talk negatively about themselves or about you and other people. Repeat that first sentence. Talking to people who constantly put themselves down can make you feel worse about yourself too. The energy you surround yourself with is contagious. So, surround yourself with positive, upbuilding and encouraging people.
5. Take some time to relax
You can feel better about yourself if you take time to relax and look after your body. Take part in meditation classes, go for regular massages, have a bath at the end of a long day or treat yourself to some new cosmetic products. Taking time to make yourself feel better gives you a whole new glow and confidence on the outside as well.
6. Buy some new clothes
You can feel bad about the way you look if you’re wearing old clothes or clothes which don’t fit you properly anymore. Go out with a friend one weekend and buy yourself a new wardrobe for the upcoming season. Shopping is always good therapy in my book. Not to mention, you’ll have so much excitement for all the great things you’ve bought, you will be excited to show them off.
7. Smile more
When you smile more, you will automatically become more attractive, both to yourself when you look in the mirror and to the people around you. This will lead to more compliments which will always boost your self-confidence and make you feel better about yourself.