So a little over two years ago I made this list called, “My Not So 101 in 1001 Days”. It was a list of all the things I wanted to accomplish before my fortieth birthday. Well, my 40th is just a week or so away now and I wanted to review what I have accomplished and what I haven’t accomplished in the last year. When I first reviewed this list a couple of months ago, I laughed reading all the big dreams and goals I had set. And since I hadn’t looked at the list in over a year, I knew I had failed in a major way. Without having printed this list and displayed somewhere I would see constantly, I completely forgot about all the plans I had made. It was “out of sight, out of mind”.
So yes, I failed in a MAJOR way and you’ll see as you go down this list. But I am okay with it because I’ve learned lessons which I’ll share at the end. Let’s get into this 101 Recap. First on my list was my travel goals.
Here’s what I actually accomplished in terms of travel:
- Travel on a solo trip – My first solo trip is actually scheduled for later this month. I procrastinated about this for so long, but I am doing it!
- Visit San Diego – Thanks to my job, I’ve actually been to San Diego a few times. The next trip is scheduled for May of this year.
- Visit three states I’ve never been to – Utah, Nevada, and Arizona
Now as much as I have traveled the past year, I haven’t really taken a vacation for myself, which explains why the following list of places I wanted to travel to, but still have not, is very long:
- London, England
- Paris, France
- Havana, Cuba
- Rome and Venice, Italy
- Visit the beaches along the PCH
- Costa Rica
- Amalfi Coast
- Cross-country road trip
So here’s the fun I’ve had:
- Learned how to play golf – Top Golf counts right?
- Sing karaoke in a bar – I actually sang several songs that night
- Tour a brewery
And the fun that I still need to have and it’s a LOT of fun to be had:
- Attend a New England Patriots at Gillette Stadium
- Visit the Patriots training camp
- Go see a Broadway show in NYC
- Ride on an elephant
- Take a selfie with a giraffe.
- Take horseback riding lessons.
- Learn calligraphy.
If you follow me on Instagram, then you know I love a good meal. I love trying new restaurants and new foods, so it’s no surprise that the results of this list were 50/50.
- I tried a lobster roll. I finally tried one and it was good, but I still love a good, whole lobster. I will eat a lobster any day.
- Made homemade pasta
- Drank more champagne and mimosas. – And this year is my “Chanel and Champagne” year, so there will be even MORE bubbly.
- Made my own pho. – Pho takes work. I’ve made it like once and have never made it again. It was good, but it was work.
- Get over my fear of the way injera looks and try it. – So I haven’t tried fresh injera, but my boss eats this injera trips and I’ve tried those. They were still scary looking and had a weird little after taste, but I tried them. Cross it off the list because I am not eating them again. LOL
Here are the food goals I still need to make happen; thankfully it’s a small list.
- Make authentic paella.
- Create the perfect salted caramel cheesecake.
- Create another cookbook with my mom.
- Make homemade Oreos.
- Create a spicy summer roll.
I have a love/hate thing with events. I am an event planner, so I love being behind the scenes. But as someone who has social anxiety, attending events gives me so much stress, so there are a lot of things on this list that I haven’t done, like:
- Attend the Kentucky Derby
- Go to the New York State Fair
- Host a brunch for my friends
- Host a bloggers’ brunch – maybe in 2020?
- Host a tea party
- Host a beer tasting
- Attend my 20-Year High School Reunion – when my reunion rolled around I actually opted not to attend. I had no desire to attend, mainly because I was holding a pity party about where my life was at that current time. Thankfully, the pity party has ended.
Sadly, the only event that I did attend was the Texas State Fair. I reached out to the fair organizers and obtained tickets and ended up spending time with my cousin eating all the goodies that the fair had to offer.
Now health or should I say fitness will always be a struggle for me because I hate to workout. There was a short time where I was dedicated to going to the gym 3-4 times a week. I would wake up at 5 am and even get in a workout before the gym. I’ve definitely lost that momentum. I did a sugar detox a couple of years ago and avoided candy and all things sweet for a while. I was also able to eat-in and avoid take-out or dining out for a couple of weeks. However, I didn’t accomplish any of the things below:
- Lose 25 pounds by March 27, 2018
- Run a mile without any walking and then
- Run without walking a 5K
- Drink at least 1/2 gallon of water a day – I hate water, so this is a real struggle with me
- Finally be able to do a split
- Build up to a 3-minute plank
Are you starting to see a pattern here? There was a lot on this list that I did not accomplish and when I think back on it, this list may have been a little too much or a little too ambitious. But let’s continue.
Yep, you guessed it, another list of things I didn’t complete:
- Write a letter to myself in 10 years, mostly because I’m not sure what to say.
- Send thinking of you cards to friends I’ve lost touch with
- Map out my family tree with my grandfather – since my grandfather has since passed, I’ll be using the notes he left to map out my family tree
- Create a 72-hour emergency kit – all I need to do is order the kit and I haven’t even done it yet (facepalm)
- Complete my bachelor’s degree – I am completely over the desire to get a degree, now I just need to work on these loans
- Be in a loving & satisfying relationship and then
- Get married
- Treat myself to a flower delivery once a month for year
- Complete my tattoo project. (sorry mom)
- Learn how to cornrow
- Make a list of 100 things I am grateful for.
- Volunteer at a domestic violence center.
- Write a letter to myself to be opened on my 40th birthday
The only thing on my list of personal goals that I was able to accomplish is spending one whole day without any electronics. It’s freeing and yet a little terrifying at the same time.
Being consistent with my blog has always been a struggle because I juggle a really busy job, religious obligations and a bunch of other things in my life. I have been able to host a giveaway and create my own social link-up for Instagram. But there are a lot of things that I still need to work on:
- Come up with a consistency plan and then…
- Stick to the plan and blog consistently for three months.
- Build a relationship with my favorite hotel brand.
- Attend a few conferences for self-improvement and networking.
- Increase blog traffic on the new blog to 1000 views/day.
- Design blog business cards.
- Make a list of 100 things that make me happy.
- Collaborate with some of my favorite brands and do a sponsored trip.
- Hire a business coach.
Prayer is essential to my life and I make it a point to talk to Jehovah God every day, however, I’ve been slacking on everything thing else spiritual, so here’s what I haven’t done YET:
- Read the entire Bible
- Develop and stick to a personal study program
- Increase my time in the ministry.
- Preach in Costa Rica.
- Study the Bible with someone.
- Learn the words to the new Kingdom Melodies and not sing the songs the old way.
- Nighttime witnessing.
- Complete my emergency kit.
I’ll be honest, I have a lot of business goals, but fear of failure holds me back. I’ve owned several businesses and when they don’t reach the success I want them to, I end up abandoning them. In 2018, after my first speaking engagement, I came up with a business idea. I sat on the idea for months and waited at least 6 months before buying the URL for the business. I had big things planned for 2019, but my Achilles injury sidelined all those goals. I did
- Purchase/Subscribe to the Adobe Creative Suite
- Create my own planner
But there are a lot of things I still need to do:
- Write a creative business plan
- Obtain a PO Box for business
- Start working on the longer, more complicated business plan
- Get at least 100 email subscriptions before product launch
- Hire a marketing expert
- Learn the basics of coding
- Earn $500-$1000/month from new business
I spoil myself, big surprise there, so I can happily check off many things on this list like:
- No shopping for one month
- Bought a new Louis Vuitton purse
- Buy my mom a Louis Vuitton purse – my brother took care of this one, so I think I’m off the hook
- Furniture for my living room – I finally purchased furniture for my living room and dining room
- Invest in a Chanel bag – finally got a Chanel classic and I love it
- Re-decorate my home office – 80% completed. I just need to find places to store a lot of my random items
- The perfect travel tote – I found the perfect tote with my Lo & Sons bag, but I actually haven’t used it for the last several trips I’ve been on. Dare I say it, but I may have outgrown my bag.
- A complete set of luggage – I finally purchased a new set of luggage last month and I love it. It will be used a LOT this year
Here’s my Not-So-Wish-List
- Buy a house – I go back and forth about my desire to own a house. Some days I want a house and other days, I don’t want the responsibilities that come with owning a house
- Buy a new truck – My car is currently paid off. I have no plans to buy anything new until later this year.
- The perfect pair of travel shoes – I still haven’t found the perfect pair. I tried Tieks and was not impressed. Any suggestions?
And last, but definitely not least, were my money goals. As I mentioned in another post, earning money has always been easy for me, saving is, on the other hand, has been a true challenge. Last year, I started a travel savings account and started investing in stocks. I am slowly learning to stick to a budget, but the rest of these are working in progress:
- Pay off my credit cards.
- Complete the 52 Week Money Challenge
- Buy stock in some of my favorite companies
- Have a consistent flow of income from my blog.
- Re-save at least 6 months of expenses for an Emergency Fund
- Pay for car insurance in full for a year
- Start an IRA
This was a LOT and clearly it was too much. But I have learned
- Keep it simple. Make sure your goals are simple AND realistic.
- Set reminders quarterly to review your annual goals.
- Print a list of your goals and keep them in a place that you can easily grab and review them.
Even though the list of things that I did not accomplish is long, I am still inspired by all the plans and aspirations I had a few years ago. I definitely plan to make a MUCH smaller annual bucket list, so stay tuned, I’ll be sharing that very soon.