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How to Turn Negative into Positive When You Have a Bad Day

We have been talking about how to turn negative thoughts into positive ones, but it isn’t always as easy as just putting a positive spin on it. Sometimes, you are just having a terrible day and are completely consumed by one derailment after another. These are the days when you need to think a little out of the box if you still want to be a positive person who thinks optimistically about everything in life. Here are some tips for reframing those negative thoughts into positive ones, even when it seems like everything is going wrong. Why Bother? You might be wondering why you should even bother reframing your negative thoughts? Technically, you don’t need to, but it can help to maintain a positive attitude as you go through life. It is not what happens to you that defines you, but how you deal with it. Repeat after me, “it…

7 Things that people with social anxiety do

A couple of weeks ago, I wrote a post called 6 Things You Should Never Say to Someone with Social Anxiety. I think it’s important for my friends, family and you to understand how to be sensitive to someone who has social anxiety. And also how to not offend them. In order to be sensitive to our feelings and thinking, I think it’s also important to give you an insider’s view to our though process. So today, I am following up with 7 Things that People With Social Anxiety Do. . Only feel comfortable or safe with certain people. I am a pretty private person, so I let a choice few really know all my secrets.  This is similar with others who suffer from social anxiety. They feel safe or comfortable only with certain people.  These are also the same people that they feel “safe” attending events with because they know…

4 Tips to Advance Your Career With Social Anxiety

Last week, I shared tips on how to deal with professional commitments when you have social anxiety.  This week, I wanted to dive a little deeper, especially if you’re looking to advance your career. While people often find job interviews to be a little nerve-wracking, you find them downright debilitating. I remember the first time I had to go through a group interview, I was so nervous and scared that they could all sense my anxiety. It can be really hard to advance in your career when you can’t handle things like interviews and job meetings. Here are some tips I’ve found helpful for advancing your career even with social anxiety. Tips to Advance Your Career with Social Anxiety Change Your Mindset The first thing you need to do when you want to advance your career is to change your mindset. This can be challenging at first, but with practice and…

5 Tips to Deal With Social Anxiety When You Have Professional Commitments

Having social anxiety while maintaining a professional career, especially in the corporate world can be challenging at times, especially when your colleagues don’t know about your social anxiety disorder.  As much as you care about your career, it’s not something that you want to disclose to everyone. However, it is definitely possible to manage your social anxiety and still advance in your career. I  have made a personal goal NOT to allow my social anxiety from holding me back professionally and moving up in my career.  It’s really important for me to try and manage my anxiety as best as possible and maintain a somewhat normal life and career. That doesn’t mean I don’t get terrified and have a lot of anxiety when I am when I’m required to complete certain tasks like leading meetings or giving a presentation to my peers. Here are a few tips that have helped me in…

6 Things You Should Never Say to Someone with Social Anxiety

I’ve lived with social anxiety all my life. And last week was the first time I came out publically about it.  This list of 6 things you should never say to someone with social anxiety is real. Because all of them have been said to me.  I don’t take it personally because I know the person(s) stating these things didn’t know about my disorder. 1. Just get over it This is #1 for a reason. It irks my soul when someone tells me to, “Just get over my anxiety”. This phrase is in no way helpful. People who are anxious want to get over their worries, but it’s not that easy. Anxiety doesn’t just go away when you ask it to. Telling someone to “just get over it”, belittles our issues and implies that our fears and anxieties are easy to resolve.  2. Calm down Telling someone to calm down is…